Sunday, December 11, 2011

Chiffon babydoll, thong, restraints & blindfold; Fuchsia o/s

 "Come on over now . . . ", Jeri said urgently, "I have the evening free, and I'm wearing your Valentine's Day gift . . . except I'm saving the wrist cuffs and blindfold for you . . . ".
 
 

This heart-trimmed, chiffon babydoll outfit is a playful way to introduce sexy bondage play to your partner, because it includes a pair of wrist restraints!  Plus, the matching thong ties at the sides, so it's easily removable, no matter how she's tied up!  Also included is a blindfold, to keep her in suspense and erotic anticipation as you experiment with different ways to tease and please her.  Make this Valentine's Day one you'll always remember, and leave your lover begging for more!  


Chiffon babydoll, thong, restraints & blindfold; Fuchsia o/s

Saturday, December 10, 2011

Chiffon Babydoll, Thong & Restraint Set; Pink Sequin

Chiffon Babydoll, Thong & Restraint Set; Pink Sequin

Sweet and romantic, sexy and wicked, this chiffon babydoll outfit has sequin heart trim, and includes a matching thong, plus a set of matching wrist restraints.  This enticing ensemble is a gentle way to introduce bondage play to your lover.  In this outfit, she'll look almost demure, and yet very naughty at the same time - an unbeatable combination!  Great for adding excitement to any bedroom bondage rendezvous, this set is sure to please you both!  One size fits 90-160lbs.  Add a vibrator for even more exciting times.

Cup    B/C
Bust   32"-38"
Waist  24"-32"
Hip     34"-40"

Spanking Scene Set 57

Whether it's sex, mischief, or just S&M, your outfit has arrived! The comfortable microfiber bra, open-back, buckling garter skirt, and matching thong makes a very sexy, form-fitting combination.  From the front you'd never know that the skirt is held on by two buckling straps across her exposed buttocks!  It's hot, wicked, and perfect for sexy bondage, teasing and spanking games; even includes a small paddle to get you started. Just might be the hottest piece of bondage lingerie we carry!  Order leather cuffs and bondage rope below; you'll want plenty!

http://www.sexybondagerestraints.com/product/ELD6122SET

As usual, we take our stand for truth in advertising, and go one step further than the competition.  If you shop for this set elsewhere, you'll see that it doesn't include the stockings, so unless you already have them, the outfit won't look like what you see in the photos.  We want you satisfied, so we add the stockings (a $6.00 value), to make this a complete outfit (except for the shoes...) that you could wear right out of the box!  You can order shoes seperately if you need them.

Black microfiber, one size fit only.
Size: 2-14
Cup: B/C
Bust: 32-38
Waist: 24-32
Hip: 24-40
Inseam: 35
Rise: 7 1/2 -8
Weight: 90-160 lb

Monday, November 7, 2011

Understanding Sex Toy Plastics

UNDERSTANDING SEX TOY PLASTICS
A BASIC OVERVIEW

During the last few years, there’s been a lot of justifiable concern over potential harmful effects caused by the plastics used in the making of sex toys.  In addition, because these same materials are also used extensively in children’s toys, a considerable amount of research has been done, and it’s been determined that some plastics do indeed present health hazards, especially when in direct contact with the body’s internal chemistry.  This applies equally to sex toys such as vibrating stimulators or mouth gags, and children’s toys such as teething rings.  Legislation now restricts certain materials from being used in children’s toys, but sex toy materials continue largely unregulated. 

However, because of these growing health concerns, most sex toy manufacturers are voluntarily replacing questionable materials with existing and newly-developed alternatives, which has led to a proliferation of new acronyms, such as: PVC, TPE, TPR, PU & ABS.  The purpose of this article is to identify each of these materials, describe their characteristics, and evaluate their relative safety for body contact.

First though, a quick science lesson. My background is as an organic chemist, and without getting too technical, I think a bit of explanation is in order here.  Plastics are “polymers” - repeating chemical chains, formed by various chemical reactions, and interlocking with one another.  It’s a bit like weaving a basket; you can weave a lot of strands close together, and you’ll get a rigid basket, or you can weave the strands far apart, and your basket will be more flexible.  Plastics form that way, too, the closer the weave, the harder the plastic.  Just like in the kitchen, where, by varying the ingredients, you can make peanut brittle or taffy, caramel glaze or butterscotch, so different plastics can be formulated, combined, blended as “copolymers”, or treated with additives to produce characteristics, like: clear, flexible, strong, brittle, or hard. 

The ability to develop new plastics and copolymer blends has certainly allowed us to create new, more appropriate, more useful plastic products.  But in some cases, plastics additives continue releasing toxic compounds into the atmosphere long after products are made.  And since all plastics are manufactured by a series of complex chemical processes, sometimes toxic chemicals become part of the finished material, or remain as loosely-bonded residues.  These potentially dangerous additives and chemical components are health and safety concerns for all plastics applications, ranging from children’s toys, to car interiors, to sex toys.  OK, the chemistry lesson is over.

For sex toys, understandably, soft is good, and the first soft sex toys were made of natural latex or different types of rubber.  The development of synthetic plastics gave us new materials to choose from, but these early plastics were hard, and required chemical additives called plasticizing agents, to make them softer and squeezable.  This is how the early, very popular “jelly” sex toys were made – hard plastic was softened by plasticizing agents called phthalates.  Unfortunately, some of these plasticizers continued to release harmful chemicals, either by “out-gassing”, which is easily identified by the distinctive and familiar odor of some new plastic products, or even by direct transfer through skin contact.  Today’s health and environmental concerns focus mainly on phthalates used in these soft “jelly” plastics.

At the other end of the spectrum are the hard plastics, often used to make hard sex toys such as dildos and vibrators. Hard plastics are mostly inert, with insignificant chemical transfer, and are non-porous, so they don’t harbor bacteria.  They can be readily cleaned with disinfectant soap or alcohol. The sex toy community has largely settled on using ABS (see below) for hard plastic applications.

The next step in plastics evolution was the development of synthetic rubber materials called elastomers, which can be made soft without the use of potentially dangerous chemical additives.  Most elastomers are FDA-approved as safe for contact with food, and are generally body-safe.  The soft grip on your new kitchen utensils is an elastomer material.  Elastomers are widely used today in all sorts of consumer products, from medical devices to children’s toys, and are used widely to replace jelly rubber sex toys made with the controversial phthalate additives.

Of all the elastomers, though, the most body-friendly is silicone, and it’s used in everything from medical implants to baking pans. Silicone generally carries medical-grade ratings, and it’s the king of materials for sex toys, remaining neutral under all conditions.  It’s also the most expensive, so it’s used predominantly on high-end products.  Silicone, like the other elastomers, is also used to coat hard plastics and provide that desirable soft-touch feel.

To help everyone identify and understand the pros and cons of the various materials used in sex toys, including rubber, below I’ve decoded the acronyms, and provided brief descriptions of each material, starting with latex, the first soft sex toy material, and proceeding in order of development.  After reading through the descriptions, you’ll have a much better understanding of the materials your new vibrator is made from, and can then choose what suits you best.


THE PLASTICS

LATEX   
Natural latex, also called natural rubber, is produced by the Hevea basiliensis tree.  The sap of the tree is collected, then through complex treatments and manufacturing processes, the final material is produced, which contains both natural proteins and chemical additives.  Natural latex rubber is a durable, flexible material with a high degree of protection from micro-organisms.  Latex rubber is anti microbial, dust mite and mildew resistant, hypo-allergenic and flame retardant

Latex is used in variety of medical and health care products, including teething toys for children.  The first flexible sex toys were made from rubber, and it’s still widely used today.  Latex rubber has a characteristic scent (a bit like the odor in a tire store), and a slight taste that some people dislike.  Latex is body-safe, except for the ~10% of people who have latex allergies, with reactions that display effects similar to flu symptoms.  In the worst cases, the allergy can even cause anaphylactic shock – so if any symptoms do appear, stop contact with the product immediately (1).  Latex is porous, and cannot be completely sterilized.

PVC & JELLY RUBBER
Polyvinyl Chloride

PVC is third-most prevalent type of manufactured plastic, and depending on the formulation, can exhibit a wide range of hardness and strength.  One of the most prevalent applications of rigid PVC is for water pipes - those familiar gray plastic pipes used in the majority of new construction.  Rigid PVC foams are used in the signmaking industry.  As hard plastics, these can be formulated to be completely inert. But for other applications that require a softer, more flexible material, like cable insulation, plastic packaging, and toys, compounds known as plasticizers, called phthalates, are added to the PVC blend, and can later leach into their surroundings, either through skin direct contact or by outgassing.  These compounds have been shown to disrupt the body’s endocrine system, and can have adverse physical effects

One of these phthalates, diethylhexyl phthalate, was banned by the European Union in 2006; others such as butylbenzyl phthalate, are still in use today.  The studies and debates continue as to the environmental and health impact of phthalate compounds, but the majority opinion leans toward caution (2).

The slightly acrid odor when you first open your new vinyl shower curtain’s package is from the phthalates outgassing (you might want to open the package outside).  For thin vinyl products like shower curtains or inflatable toys, a majority of the chemicals are gone after the initial outgassing, and so they become body-safe.  But for thicker items that come into direct contact with body chemistry, such as children’s teething toys, phthalates can be absorbed directly from the plastic.  Some plastic food packaging can also contain phthalates (used to make the material stretchable), and these can leach into packaged food. 
   
For sex toys, the original soft and flexible plastics described as “jelly” were usually made from PVC with phthalate softeners.  (…the old sex toys you’ve had for a while are suspect for phthalate content…).  Since sex toys have intimate contact with body hormones - under the added friction, heat, and pressure of sex – the potential for phthalate absorption is increased even further. Plus, jelly materials are porous and cannot be sterilized.  And although using a condom on a shared jelly rubber sex toy will reduce the risk of germs being transmitted, that may not entirely eliminate the risk of phthalate exposure.  Most sex toy manufacturers are now using soft elastomers to make body-safe products with the same look-and-feel as jelly toys.


NEOPRENE   
Polychloroprene

This synthetic rubber was developed in the 1930’s, and is most often used in sheet form for a variety of applications, such as laptop sleeves, orthopedic braces, membranes and seals.  A foamed version of neoprene is used for insulation, most notably in diver’s wetsuits. Neoprene is chemically inert, and safe for skin contact, but it’s not recommended for internal use (3).  Some people do exhibit allergic reactions to neoprene products.  In the adult toy world, neoprene is often used in basic bondage cuffs and restraints, because it’s a soft, flexible, strong, low-cost material.


TPE   
Thermoplastic Elastomer

Developed in the 1950’s, these are blends of hard and soft plastics, that, depending on formulation, can exhibit a wide range of elasticity and softness, eliminating any need for phthalates.  TPE materials are food-safe, and can be FDA certified.  TPE products are hypoallergenic, tasteless and odorless, and can be easily cleaned with disinfectant soap and water, or even alcohol (4). These materials are used in place of rubber and soft PVC in children’s toys and medical products, and can be made clear or in transparent colors. TPE is widely used in sex toys, and has excellent tactile qualities, able to produce a wide variety of surface textures.  However, since all elastomers (except Silicone) are slightly porous, and cannot be completely sterilized, we strongly recommend using condoms when and if you’re sharing sex toys that are used internally.


TPR   
Thermoplastic Rubber

This is a specific type of TPE, formulated using Styrene elastomers, which adds additional strength to it’s rubber-like qualities. TPR combines the formability of plastics and the flexibility and durability of rubber, all with lighter weight, and is often used to replace rubber or soft plastic (5).  TRP products are food-grade and FDA approved, however like all elastomers (except Silicone), they are slightly porous, and cannot be completely sterilized, so we strongly recommend using condoms when and if you’re sharing sex toys that are used internally.


ABS   
Acrylonitrile Butadiene Styrene

This is a blend of three plastics, designed to have the qualities of strength, rigidity, and formability.  It’s most commonly used as a hard plastic, although it can be formulated with varying degrees of flexibility by changing the components. ABS is used in many consumer goods, including electronics enclosures (i.e. Sony Playstation), kitchen appliances, and children’s toys, and it’s chemically inert, non-porous, and body-safe.  In fact, since 1963, Lego blocks have been manufactured from ABS because the material is so body-friendly, hypoallergenic, and non-porous.  It’s especially suitable for anyone concerned about allergic reactions or with chemical sensitivities, and products can be cleaned thoroughly with anti-bacterial soaps and washes. ABS is the most commonly-used hard plastic in sex toys, and often combined with TPE/TPR and silicone components or coatings.  One caution about hard plastic toys is that if dropped, they can crack, producing dangerous sharp edges, and the cracks can harbor bacteria, so don’t use damaged sex toys.


PU   
Polyurethane

This designation refers to a class of polymers used in a variety of applications, from the clear polyurethanes we’re familiar with as paint finishes, to foam seat cushions, and even SpandexTM , which is a polyurethane fiber.  PU materials are chemically inert, and body-safe (6).  Many of the familiar soft-touch coatings found on consumer products, such as cellphone covers and computer mice, and also on medical devices, are made from polyurethanes.  Like silicone rubber (see below), soft-touch PU coatings are used on sex toys, often in conjunction with harder plastics like ABS.  These coatings are hygienic, body-friendly, and easy to clean with disinfectants6.


SILICONE  
Polydimethylsiloxane
Silicones are inert, rubber-like synthetic compounds made from silicon dioxide, or silica (like beach sand), which is also the starting material for making glass.  Able to be formulated in a wide range of hardness, and typically heat-resistant, silicones are used in sealants, adhesives, lubricants, medical applications (e.g., breast implants), and cookware.  Also called silicone rubber, these materials have low chemical reactivity, are non-porous, and do not support microbiological growth.  Silicone can be molded into solid products with a wide range of flexibility, can form a soft-touch coating on hard plastics, and is even used as a component in some personal lubricants.

All silicones are hypoallergenic, body-safe, and rated as food grade.  Beyond this, medical grade silicones are tested for biocompatability, and FDA certified (7).  Silicone is the most desirable, body-chemistry-compatible, easily cleanable material for sex toys; all-silicone sex toys can even be boiled and sterilized, making safe sharing possible.  At this time, though, it’s also the most expensive material, so top-quality silicone products cost more, but are arguably worth the price.


CONCLUSIONS

My research on this topic left me with a much better understanding of all these plastics.  It’s apparent that soft PVC-based plastics containing phthalates, such as “jelly” rubber products, have the potential to cause health problems, and should be avoided whenever possible.  Most sex toy manufacturers have addressed these health concerns by switching to elastomers for their new soft-feel products, however, some jelly rubber products still remain on the market, so exercise caution when purchasing soft sex toys.  Always check out the materials thoroughly, and if there’s no clear information, it’s best to make another choice.  And even though it might mean replacing your favorite dildo, I recommend that you replace any squishy jelly sex toy that’s more than 5 years old.

Today, most mid-range sex toys are made from TPE and TPR, either as solid molded materials, or in conjunction with ABS as a coating, or co-molded directly with ABS.  These materials are all body-friendly, but since these elastomers are non-porous, they’re not recommended for sharing, unless used with a condom.  In the mid-range, rubber and latex also remain viable choices, except for those with latex allergies, or for those who find the taste or smell somewhat offensive. 

The higher-quality sex toys have generally migrated to silicone, again, used either as a solid molded material, or as a coating over ABS, or co-molded directly with ABS.  With food-grade and medical-grade ratings, silicone is the most highly-recommended and desirable sex toy material.   Even if that original Rabbit you have still works, it’s time to replace it with a new, safer version.

If you’re sharing sex toys with a partner, the consensus recommendation is that you use a condom to prevent the transmission of bacteria, unless the toy is silicone, and you sterilize it first by boiling.  Further, any sex toy that’s used both vaginally and anally, silicone or not, should always be sterilized first, as even a fresh condom may not afford adequate bacterial protection.

Use only water-based personal lubricants with silicone sex toys, as silicone-based lubricants will begin to dissolve and erode the sex toy, making it unusable.

A Final Recommendation

Although unrelated to the foregoing discussion of sex toy plastics, from an environmental standpoint, you might also consider switching to a rechargeable vibrator, to eliminate sending used batteries to our landfills.  Today you’ll find a large selection of these to choose from.


FOOTNOTES

1    American Latex Allergy Association http://latexallergyresources.org/symptoms)
2    http://archive.greenpeace.org/comms/97/pvctoys/documents/background.html
3    "Technical information — Neoprene" (PDF). Du Pont Performance Elastomers. October 2003.
4    http://www.specialchem4polymers.com/resources/latest/displaynews.aspx?id=5473
5    http://www.thefreelibrary.com
     /Preparation+of+thermoplastic+elastomer+nanocomposites+based+on...-a0248407199
6    http://www.bayercoatings.de/bms/db-rsc/bms_rsc_cas.nsf/files/Broschueren/$file/MS00038520-E-Softtouch-
     06-08.pdf
7   http://www.makeitfrom.com/compare/?left=Natural_Rubber&right=Silicone_Rubber


Stephen Goldberg
GOLDSTORES ONLINE
www.sexybondagerestraints.com

Sunday, October 30, 2011

Triple Point Theory

I just added these three-tipped teasers to the website.  Of what I've seen so far, these seem like the most fun, although I've never actually touched or used one.  I really like the perineum tip, I think that could be a perfect tease, just enough.  Treat yourself to a new toy at our website:  Sexy Bondage Restraints


No wonder I like this toy.  Stimulating a woman's three hotspots at the same time can be epic.  The right position helps, and here's how we do it.  From a missionary position, I'll kind of pivot around our uh, bearings, and slide to Bianca's right side, so I'm laying across her at an angle.  At the same I extend my right arm under her hips.  Don't use a pillow - you'll be more comfortable with your cheek on the mattress.  Now you can both get comfortable, readjust and all.  We use this position a lot, haha we both enjoy how I can tease her breasts or pussy with one hand, and squeeze/tease her ass with the other. 

Tonight we added a little extra stimulation by way of a blindfold and a thin satin sash, which are probably our most-used sex toys.  This time, after Bianca was blindfolded, I surprised her with the sash being pulled across her breasts.  I teased her with it a little first, then laid it across her nipples, and tucked it under her arms to gently hold it in place - it's great to play with later.  Tonight was monumental.  Bianca tried the new ball gag, and also tried having her arms tied behind her.  New games.  I'm surprised the neighbors didn't complain when she came.

We also tried a new lubricant, and aren't sure what to say about it yet.  It was thicker (good), and a little tingly (Bianca's not sure about that), and it cleaned up really well, I liked that.  We'll keep doing research.

Friday, October 21, 2011

Work, work, work . . . another sex toy review

But Rosie you’re all right -- you wear my ring
When you hold me tight -- Rosie that’s my thing
When you turn out the light -- I’ve got to hand it to me . . .
Looks like it’s me and you again tonight . . . Rosie
-Jackson Browne



TODAY'S REVIEW
Travel Head Honcho Kit
SE9572-10-3

I’ve never quite understood why masturbator products are so popular, having always been very content with my own, uh, hand tools.  So I was very interested to try this “tight, stretchy stroker”, as it’s billed.  Made of clear TPR elastomer, a body-safe material, this internally-ribbed, 4-1/4” long sleeve had a slightly sticky texture outside, with a smooth texture inside.  At first, it felt like some of the outside stickiness would transfer to my hand, but nothing did, and that tack definitely made the stroker easy to hold onto, as I oiled up, and began to penetrate the sleeve.  The sensation of feeling the pressure of my hand through the TPR gel, but my hand not feeling any skin, was very unique!  Being able to see through the sleeve was a big plus, too.  Bit by bit I stretched the sleeve and worked it all the way up, so I could feel the internal ribs, and enjoy the suction they helped produce as I stroked myself.  Well . . . long story short, it worked just fine, and it was kinda cool watching the action through the transparent gel!

Since there’s no removable/replaceable inner sleeve, I consider this to be a one-time use item, and so kind of wasteful.  I’ve become masterful at getting myself off, no accessories required.  And as far as the Head Honcho being billed as travel-sized, I’d just stick with Rosie when I’m on the road.   But this was a good introduction to this type of boy toy, and does leave me wondering how great one of the vibrating ones might be! 
Sean

Sunday, October 2, 2011

Sex Toy Review

We've signed on as sex toy reviewers with California Exotic Novelties, one of the major manufacturers whose products our suppliers carry.  They'll be sending us a new sex toy to review each month, and I'll be posting my reviews here.  Here's the first product review:


BASIC ESSENTIALS Beaded Probe SE-1794-12-2
First off, to put things in perspective, I’m 62 and my wife is 64, and this has considerable bearing on our enjoyment of this sex toy. We’re very sexually active, and especially like bondage, whips and gags, but neither of us is into anal play, so that limited our exploration of the Beaded Probe to vaginal use.

On first receiving the package, before opening it, I was unable to determine how soft or hard the probe was, and because of the rigid plastic clamshell package, it actually appeared to be a hard plastic.  I was glad that it turned out to be flexible and resilient.  I would suggest perhaps adding a touchable spot of the same material to retail packages, so that people could get a sense of the actual toy consistency before buying.  Nonetheless, it does have an enjoyable consistency.

With great expectations, I applied plenty of lubricant and began teasing my wife’s vagina with the tip, then slowly inserting and withdrawing the probe.  After just a few minutes, though, she found the beading too extreme, and the side ridge irritating.  I then tried using it externally, by sliding up and down across her clit, which was more enjoyable for her, but she’d rather feel my fingers there instead. 

I also noticed that the very tip came to a point, which may have contributed to the discomfort – in my opinion, it would be much better if the tip was completely rounded.  Vaginal tissues, especially for those a little older, are very sensitive, and pointy things just seem out of place.  Then secondly, perhaps a smoother transition between the beads, more like an hourglass shape, would make it more comfortable.  And I would make the side ridge a flowing, smooth shape that blended with the beads. 

On the plus side, the texture is very smooth, and the TPE has a nice combination of firmness and flexibility.  And there was no odor, which is always appreciated.  The grip ring made handling the toy very easy and secure. 


DISCLOSURE OF MATERIAL CONNECTION:  I received the product mentioned above free from the manufacturer.  My review of the product is based on my personal opinion.  I review, recommend, and endorse products based on what I believe is best for my readers.  I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's Guidelines CFR, Part 255.

Saturday, September 24, 2011

Legs Wide Open

Taking your partner out of their comfort zone is one of the practices that makes bondage sex so exciting, for both parties.  When your partner surrenders to you, and for instance, is tied spread-eagle on the bed, they're unable to resist being teased, stoked and pleasured beyond their normal limits, and have no choice but to submit and enjoy the ride!  And you, the dominant, can enjoy not only the process of restraining your partner (which always gets me really hard...), but also share the thrills of their mind-blowing orgasms!  And of course, your own.  I've heard it said that sex is the only game where finishing second is winning.

Now here's the thing.  Comfort-zone stepping is an incremental process.  You might imagine using ropes, gags, blindfolds and vibrators the first time you tie her up, but in reality, you want your partner to feel safe, and be comfortable enough to really enjoy herself.  So when you do take her outside of her comfort zone, you'll find that a little bit of kink goes a long way.  But keep in mind that comfort zones expand, and what was once unthinkable will soon become the new normal.  Let me explain.


Bianca (I like to call her that . . and she calls me Sean . .) likes to be tied spread-eagle, and I'm very much in favor of that!  For quite some time though, she wouldn't let me tie her legs very far apart, because it made her anxious and a little bit scared.  She also didn't want her arms stretched too tightly to the sides for the same reasons.  Of course, I respected her wishes - this is a consensual game - and only pushed her comfort zone a little bit each time, and stopped whenever she wanted.  If she said, "too tight", I backed off.  Flash forward, and now she lets me spread her legs very far apart indeed, and secure her arms tightly to the sides, and she enjoys every minute!  You know that old saying, "patience is a virtue"?  It's true!

You want to, and need to, gain her trust.  Take your time pushing the limits, honor her wishes, and make sure she always feels safe.  When she knows you're trustworthy in that regard, she'll be more willing to try new things with you, and your bondage games can then progress to new heights, and unimagined pleasures.  Play hard, play nice!

Sean